How to acquire the Charisma to attain Power, riches and able to influence others

My friend Dr Zuraidi Ishak wrote in Malay on his FB wall_Ayat misti mau power … Bibir misti mau senyum … Wajah misti mau ceria … Hidup mesti mau selamba … 🙂

My Malay language is not very good but I understand what he meant. But as the saying goes, “No man is an island” to get an all-round successful life, we could not ignore others: our partners, relatives, in-laws, friends (personal, business, political and virtual), neighbours and our business associates including customers and clients.

To achieve what we want, we could not directly change others but we need to change ourselves so that we became Charismatic and got power and influence on others. I hope that all of us need the following virtues_

  1. words must be powerful and authoritative,
  2. lips must wear a smile
  3. face must be pleasant, good looking and charming
  4. kind-hearted mind
  5. wise and educated
  6. healthy body
  7. decent job and regular income
  8. good characters and behaviours
  9. truthful, trustworthiness and reliable
  10. supportive family, friends and business or political affiliates

To get the virtues stated above, we need to try acquiring the following skills_

Even if we never possess a natural Charisma, if we have a strong desire and try hard, we could possess a powerful charm, magnetism and could get a superior capabilities of interpersonal communication and persuasion skills.

We could train or improve ourselves to become a charismatic person capable to influence others in a personal and direct manner, and effectively communicate an argument or concept to others. May be we need to learn by heart this book: “How to Win Friends and Influence PeopleWritten by Dale Carnegie

In dealing with others_

A. The First impression we need  

  1. Smile.
  2. Remember that a man’s Name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  3. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

B. Make the other person feel important

  1. Begin in a friendly way. Be courteous.
  2. Talk in the terms of the other man’s interest.
  3. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  4. Ask questions instead of directly giving orders. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to.
  5. Let the other person do the talking.
  6. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  7. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  8. Arouse in the other person an eager want or desire. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers. Don’t dramatize your ideas. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

C. Avoid confrontation

  1. Avoid arguments. Don’t throw down a challenge. Let the other person save face. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. Sympathize with the other person.
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong. Call attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes first. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Praise every improvement.
  5. Give them a fine reputation to live up to.
  6. Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct.
  7. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest. 
  8. Don’t nag.
  9. Give honest appreciation. 


Giving a speech can be a great wayto build your business, influence public opinion or kick-start our career. It is an excellent way to stand out from the crowd and make a real difference in people’s lives.

1. Have a plan and set some objectives & outcomes

  • There is nothing worse than not knowing what you want to achieve.
  • Do you want to educate the audience, inform, inspire, motivate or touch their emotions?
  • To give your audience the best speech possible you must write and rewrite the material. This means making sure that you have used the perfect words to convey your message.
  • All you have to do is forget trying to write out your speech material (or your drama dialogue or narration) and merely say it out loud or in your mind. Then commit those words to paper or screen, a few at a time or in short phrases and sentences.
    • If it sounds right, it is right,
    • and if it sounds wrong it is wrong
    • even though it may look right on paper or screen.
  • a few anecdotes (preferably personal ones) are highly effective in helping to illustrate the points you make. Usually audiences warm to speakers who tell stories against themselves. That’s probably because your admission of being human brings you closer to them and therefore you seem more approachable and believable.
  • It’s also because audiences are naturally voyeuristic and love to feel they’re getting an inside glimpse of the real you. Whatever the reason, though, anecdotes work, as long as they’re short, to the point, and totally relevant to your other material.

2. Have a formal structure – beginning, middle and end

Audiences love structure and the best speeches stick to this tried and true rule. As they say: “tell them what you’re going to say, tell them and then tell them again”.

3. Avoid having too much content

Far too much for an audience to absorb – remember even the best audiences face information overload after 20 minutes. open your speech with some shocking statistics but keep them to a minimum.

4. Define who your audience is and use the most appropriate communication methods

  • Work out the best mix of visual, audio and kinaesthetic.
  • Make sure you use humor wisely. Make sure you use it when appropriate.
  • Humor can lessen tension, especially your own if used correctly. If you do feel comfortable telling jokes, then use them sparingly, as punctuation – unless you’re to be “best man” at a wedding or the entertainment after a social dinner, wall-to-wall jokes are usually inappropriate. Jokes in a speech should always be tailored to the audience and material. Gag writing is a specialized writing technique and there are quite a few good books around on comedy writing, if you’re interested in learning how to do it.

6. Use personal stories, examples and metaphors to make intangible concepts

  • Make sure your speech hits home. If you are talking about a national or worldwide subject, be sure to have some localized information. This will cause the average listener to be more attentive.
  • Say something amusing, heart-warming, witty, whatever, as long as it’s something you would say in “real life.”

7. Have a strong opening and closing.

  • People remember the opening – first impressions count!
  • The closing is important as it should reinforce the key message you want the audience to go away with in their head after they have heard the presentation.
  • Ending with a ‘call to action’ can be a powerful way to get your audience to act on your message.

8. Add value and extra detail through a handout

  • Here’s a tip: if you want to provide detail –
  • put it in a handout!
  • Visual aids are always useful.
  • DONT over do it. Just give them something to take notes on and have main points typed out.  

9. Use short words and plain English

  • The short words are always the best words.
  • Avoid jargon.
  • Use active words instead of passive. This has far more impact in the minds of your listeners.

10. Evaluate and review on a regular basis

There’s nothing more powerful than to hear back a speech you’ve written.

If you are writing a speech for someone else always try and hear the speech or at least get some feedback.

  • Recording and listening back to a presentation is the fastest way to improve your skills.
  • Practice your speech in front of a mirror. Say it aloud, this helps you to memorize the information and become comfortable with your own voice.Your voice should be slightly louder than normal conversation tone. Especially if you have a soft voice to begin with.
  • Slow your speech down a little bit and don’t rush through the words. Make sure to enunciate and don’t slur your words either.

11. Finally

  • be apperciative of the host
  • and the one that invited you to be there.
  • Remember to also thank the audience for listening to you.

12. Tips & Warnings

  • Cue cards. I know they’re low tech, but the places where you may have to speak are not always going to be state-of-the-art theatres, so they’re useful. Two very, very important things to remember. One, always get two sets made, not just one. Keep them in separate places – e.g. one in your pocket and one in your car – so if one set gets lost you know you’ve got another handy. 
  • thank the ones that invited you
  • Thank the audience
  • Speak slowly. Enunciate your words
  • Speak a little louder than conversation voice.
  • NEVER chew gum while giving a speech (or candy)
  • Practice, Practice, Practice your speech
  • Keep eye contact
  • Watch your distracting motions
  • Use humor carefully
  • Never use profanity of any type
  • Use everyday English.
  • Do not use hard to pronounce words

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2 Responses to “How to acquire the Charisma to attain Power, riches and able to influence others”

  1. Naing Wai Win Says:

    Wow.. Got a lot of practical points from here!

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